Monday, May 16, 2011

No More!

I'm all about self improvement and growing, but lately I've been doing a little too much self-reflection, or rather self-obsessing. I call it reflecting because it sounds so much more proactive and less, well, obsessive. The reality for me though is that it's not helpful or healthy. I'll tell you what I've come up with: I'm going to stop doing it...

Stop over-analyzing decisions. Quit rehashing recent conversations in my head and replaying my interactions (and those of my kids), wondering if I came across in a wrong way. Stop worrying about how others perceive my amount of involvement. No more dwelling on my mistakes or mishaps. I could go on...

I don't know about you, but these types of thoughts run through my head much too often during the regular course of my day. Maybe I'm the only one but just in case I'm not, I thought I'd throw out my new goal: Stop all the "self-reflection". All it serves is to make me less serene, and who wants that? I'm in love with and encourage my family and other people in my life. Why not actively include myself on that list too?

So, it's more pats on the back. And breaks given. And just being.

Sound good? Join me!

{adding in this photo just bc it makes me happy!}

And this is where I would normally start worrying if I came across sounding crazy. Since I've stopped doing this type of self-reflecting, I'm not thinking that! Really :-)

10 comments:

Jennifer said...

Erin - I've only ever thought of you as the kindest, sweetest person and never thought negative about something you said or did. With your new goal you will be able to see the amazing person we all see - you've accomplished so much especially those two beautiful little ones.
jennifer
www.bigdandme.com

Jemm said...

Sounds good! I worry way too much about what people think of me too. We can only do so much, right?!

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sherri lynn said...

I hate when I rehash stuff too. I feel like I'm constantly telling myself to move on!

Kelli said...

I'm in! I need to just be me and stop thinking about who others want me to be. Thanks!

Nessa said...

I do this all the time... Did I say the right thing, I should have asked about her mom... on and on. Thanks for this - I need to stop.

Thank photo makes me happy too!

Liz@Violet Posy said...

Sounds good to me too. I need to take a foot off the gas and just relax a bit. Thanks for the reminder xx

Michael said...

You're awesome. Love you, friend!

Ashli said...

I think that is what summer is for. Hiding out, spending time with people you really want to be with, hiding from the politics and competition...........can you tell I am ready?

Angela said...

This is definitely some advice I could - and should - take. Easier said than done, but I'm going to try!! Thanks!